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The Resource In sickness and in health : love, disability, and a quest to understand the perils and pleasures of interabled romance, Ben Mattlin

In sickness and in health : love, disability, and a quest to understand the perils and pleasures of interabled romance, Ben Mattlin

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In sickness and in health : love, disability, and a quest to understand the perils and pleasures of interabled romance
Title
In sickness and in health
Title remainder
love, disability, and a quest to understand the perils and pleasures of interabled romance
Statement of responsibility
Ben Mattlin
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Author
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Language
eng
Summary
Ben Mattlin's wife, ML, recalls falling in love with his confidence and sheer determination. On one of their earliest dates, he persuaded her to ride on his lap in his wheelchair on their way home from an Elvis Costello concert. Thirty years later, they still travel like this from time to time, undaunted by the curious stares following them down the street. But In Sickness and in Health is more than an "inspiring" story of how a man born with spinal muscular atrophy--a congenital and incurable neuromuscular condition--survived childhood, graduated from Harvard, married an able-bodied woman, built a family with two daughters and a cat and a turtle, established a successful career in journalism, and lived happily ever after. As Mattlin considers the many times his relationship has been met with surprise or speculation by outsiders--those who consider his wife a "saint" or him just plain "lucky" for finding love--he issues a challenge to readers: why should the idea of an "interabled" couple be regarded as either tragic or noble? Through conversations with more than a dozen other couples of varying abilities, ethnic backgrounds, and orientations, Mattlin sets out to understand whether these pairings are as unusual as onlookers seem to think. Reflecting on his own experience he wonders: How do people balance the stresses of personal-care help with the thrill of romance? Is it possible that the very things that appear to be insurmountable obstacles to a successful relationship--the financial burdens, the physical differences, the added element of an especially uncertain future--could be the building blocks of an enviable level of intimacy and communication that other couples could only dream of? What emerges is a candid glimpse into the challenges and joys of interabled love--from the first blush of sexual awakening to commitment and marriage and through to widowhood
Biography type
collective biography
Cataloging source
DLC
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1962-
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Mattlin, Ben
Dewey number
306.8087/0973
Index
no index present
LC call number
HV1553
LC item number
.M3727 2018
Literary form
non fiction
http://library.link/vocab/subjectName
  • People with disabilities
  • Couples
  • Interpersonal relations
  • Man-woman relationships
Label
In sickness and in health : love, disability, and a quest to understand the perils and pleasures of interabled romance, Ben Mattlin
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Publication
Copyright
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volume
Carrier category code
nc
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rdacarrier
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text
Content type code
txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Control code
ocn984973227
Dimensions
24 cm
Extent
248 pages
Isbn
9780807058541
Lccn
2017004699
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
n
System control number
(OCoLC)984973227
Label
In sickness and in health : love, disability, and a quest to understand the perils and pleasures of interabled romance, Ben Mattlin
Publication
Copyright
Carrier category
volume
Carrier category code
nc
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Control code
ocn984973227
Dimensions
24 cm
Extent
248 pages
Isbn
9780807058541
Lccn
2017004699
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
n
System control number
(OCoLC)984973227

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